From Lawyer to Loud
Greetings to you all!
Yesterday we met with our estate lawyer to review the complexities of the changes to my trust. The changes incorporate Rebecca and Xavier (and any children we may have in the future). We started this process about a year ago, and we're nearly there.
When we started this effort, Rebecca did not have much engagement. She was comfortable with how I was laying things out, and she was having her own will updated. We knew we were pregnant at the time, but neither of us felt strongly about things; we only knew we needed to update our wills and trust to accommodate our spouse and children.
It's funny how a year later we find ourselves more engaged in the effort and revisiting some of the decisions we made in a lackadaisical manner. We decided to change two provisions, which last year did not seem significant, just check boxes we needed to check off. One of those decisions was a complete 180 degree change. As Rebecca told our lawyer, "Xavier changes everything."
We also had to consider a "nuance" our lawyer presented. The offices of administration of property and caring of children are not the same. We had to make some choices on child rearing by one party and property administration by a separate party, should Xavier find himself without his parents prematurely (God forbid!). The "nuance" raised sobering questions we would never have thought of, but that's why we pay the lawyer the big bucks.
Afterward, Rebecca wanted to eat out at Texas Road House (we love that place!). In truth, she wanted to eat there Wednesday night, but we couldn't make that happen. We decided then for an early dinner after visiting with the lawyer. Less crowded, we thought, and we should be able to get a table that early.
The meal was enjoyable, as always, but the noise, noise, noise! Good grief, that has got to be one of the loudest restaurants ever! Neither of us remember it being so noisy. The place was packed at 4:30. The table across the aisle from us had a birthday, and that means half a dozen employees gather around and sing--loudly.
As mentioned in earlier posts, Xavier does not do well with noise like this. It over-stimulates him. We, as parents, are learning this. We did have in the backs of our minds the noise issue, but we thought "It's Texas Road House. A good meal at a fair price. How loud can it be?" Now, we know better. It's sad, but we will have to introduce Xavier to TRH another time, when he can enjoy the experience.
Thank you all for your prayers and support.